Soul Ties

1 CORINTHIANS 6:16 (TPT)

Aren’t you aware of the fact that when anyone sleeps with a prostitute he becomes a part of her, and she becomes a part of him? For it has been declared: The two become a single body.

Scripture

John 8:36 (NLT)
So if the Son sets you free, you are truly free.

Colossians 3:5 (NLT)
So put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you. Have nothing to do with sexual immorality, impurity, lust, and evil desires. Don’t be greedy, for a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world.

Lesson

There’s a lot of teaching out there about soul ties, but simply put, a soul tie is an ungodly covenant with someone or an idol in your life. Now, when I say “idol,” I don’t mean a golden statue or something you physically worship. I’m talking about a person or relationship that takes priority over your relationship with Christ. When someone’s opinion, presence, or validation means more to you than God’s voice, that’s an idol.

How Are Soul Ties Created?

There are several ways soul ties form, but one of the most obvious is through sexual relationships outside of marriage. Whether consensual or not, whether physical or through pornography, sexual intimacy creates a spiritual connection.

Jesus said, “Anyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:28). That means even thoughts—fantasizing, obsessing—can create a spiritual bond. Many people underestimate how powerful this is.

But soul ties aren’t just sexual. They can also form through:

• Emotional dependency – When your identity or ability to function is wrapped up in someone else, that’s a sign of a soul tie.

• Unhealthy grief – Mourning is natural, but when loss leaves you unable to live, it may be a soul tie.

• Idolization – Being overly obsessed with a celebrity, mentor, or even a pastor can lead to an unhealthy spiritual connection.

Why Are Soul Ties Dangerous?

At first glance, soul ties may not seem harmful. But here’s the danger: they shift your focus off Christ. When someone consumes your thoughts more than Jesus does, you become vulnerable to deception. The enemy loves to use soul ties to distract, deceive, and ultimately destroy.

Soul ties can manifest as:

• Mental torment – Constant thoughts about a person, even when you don’t want to think about them.

• Emotional bondage – Feeling powerless to move on or make decisions without them.

• Spiritual oppression – Increased struggle with depression, anxiety, or even suicidal thoughts.

If this resonates with you, I want to encourage you: Jesus can set you free.

A Personal Story

Before I understood deliverance, I had a deep obsession with a guy. He was attractive—tall, strong, everything the world says is “ideal.” And I became fixated on him. I would re-read our messages, fantasize about our interactions, and let my emotions revolve around him. Even when I knew this wasn’t God’s plan for me, I was too entangled to stop.

One night, we were together in a rural area, and the Holy Spirit whispered a single word to me: Covenant. I remember thinking, Why am I hearing this right now? Then the Lord spoke again: “When you make a covenant with someone, the demons they carry gain access to you, and the demons you carry gain access to them.”

I was stunned. I had never thought of it that way. I didn’t know what spirits were influencing this person, but I knew I didn’t want them influencing me. I sought accountability and confided in two trusted sisters in Christ. One of them looked at me and said something that shook me:

“The enemy has been watching you your whole life. He knows what you like. He knows what makes you feel loved, and he also knows what can destroy you. This is your Samson and Delilah moment.”

That stopped me in my tracks. If you know the story, Samson’s downfall came through an ungodly soul tie. Delilah deceived him, led him to compromise, and ultimately handed him over to his enemies. I realized I was walking the same road. If I didn’t cut this off, I could forfeit the destiny God had for me.

Breaking Free

So, I ended it. I cut off contact, deleted messages and photos, and renounced the connection. It wasn’t just about saying, “God, I’m sorry.” It was about saying, “I don’t need this anymore. I choose freedom.”

Later, I found out this man was married and had been lying about his life. I could have been trapped in deeper deception, but God’s mercy pulled me out in time.

Deliverance changed everything. And even though the enemy occasionally tries to bring up old memories, I now respond with prayer. Instead of dwelling on the past, I pray for his salvation and his family’s transformation.

What Now?

If you recognize a soul tie in your life, I want you to know: You don’t have to stay stuck.

• Repent – Acknowledge where you’ve placed someone above Christ and ask for forgiveness.

• Renounce – Verbally break the agreement. Say, “I renounce this soul tie in Jesus’ name.”

• Remove – Delete messages, throw away gifts, cut off access points.

• Replace – Fill the void with God’s truth. Meditate on His promises and stay in community with strong believers.

Jesus came to give us life and freedom (John 10:10). If a soul tie is keeping you bound, today is the day to break free. You are not alone. God’s love is stronger than any chain, and He is calling you into His perfect peace.

Who the Son sets free is free indeed.

Recommended Reading
♢ Ephesians 5:31
♢ Matthew 5:28
♢ Colossians 3:5

DEAR LORD,

In the authority of Jesus, I plead the blood of Jesus over myself. I ask for it to stand between me and [name the person or people]—to separate the one-flesh union. I send back to them everything I took when I became one with them, and I call back to myself everything I gave in that union. I declare the blood of Jesus as a wall of separation between us. Thank You, Jesus, for restoring my soul.

(If this is not a sexual soul tie)I renounce and break agreement with it in Jesus’ name. I receive Your grace, Lord, to walk in freedom and refuse to engage in soul ties anymore.

Amen.

About the Author

Michelle is passionate about helping others walk in freedom and fulfill God’s purpose for their lives. She combines her skills in teaching, coaching, and creative expression to empower individuals to grow spiritually and personally. Michelle enjoys listening to sermons, exploring world cultures, and swing dancing in her free time.